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Congratulations Glynis and Leon Draper

I had the pleasure of booking a Sandals Destination wedding for Glynis Thomison and Leon Draper this past April.  Glynis and Leon decided they wanted to have their wedding and honeymoon at the same location in the Bahamas so they booked a Weddingmoon at Sandals Emerald Bay which is Sandals newest property in the Exumas.  I have not had a chance to visit but Glynis says that it is awesome! Congratulations Mr. and Mrs.  Draper and thanks so much for allowing me to be a part of such a special time in your lives.

  

Congratulations Kara and Steve Doehling

               

Wanted to share pictures from Kara and Steve's beautiful March, Destination wedding at the Guntersville Lodge.  What a lovely couple met in the military, fell in love, had a beautiful wedding, and now they have a beautiful baby on the way.  All because two people fell in love!  Kara and Steve I wish you the best in life.  Congratulations on the marriage and the baby!

Calandra Terry

Huntsville wedding planner
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Good Qualities to Have In a Marriage Part 2 by the Hub

Specific Good Qualities to Have in a Marriage - (Part 2)

These are some of Solomon’s features that his wife called to her mind and praised (see Song of Solomon 5:14-16):

He was strong in authority.  A king’s position was often revealed by the side jeweled bands of gold that he wore on each arm, a sign of his strength in leadership over a nation, people, or empire.  Solomon had great bearing in his role as king. 

He was a “manly man” to his wife, strong in leadership and authority in their relationship.  That in no way left room for abuse.  I have counseled women who have come to me with bruises on their arms and faces.  I want to amputate the arms of the men who have hurt them!  Solomon was strong in authority, but he was never a bully.  He led by example, not by demand.

He was spiritually strong.  Strength of spirit was—and continues to be—associated with strength in the abdominal area.  The “belly” area has long been considered by the Jewish people to be the locus of one’s eternal spirit.  Solomon exerted spiritual leadership in their home. 

He as like a strong rock, a marble statue that could not be moved readily.  Furthermore, the statue was set on a base of gold.  Solomon’s character was established on eternal things of utmost value.  In the eyes of his wife, Solomon was grounded on the Word of God, and he could not be moved from his position before the Lord.

He was physically strong.  Physical strength is repeatedly associated with a person’s legs and the ability to stand strong in the face of assault, battle, or calamity.

He stood tall on the inside as well as the outside, just as the cedars of Lebanon grew to great heights and were among the noblest of trees.  Solomon had a bearing about him of self-confidence and self-esteem because he knew who he was in God’s eyes.

His words were spoken with kindness—his mouth was a source of sweetness toward her.

We’ll see her response to the qualities next week.

My Question For You: Which of the qualities described above do you display to your spouse? 

My Challenge For You: Pick one of the qualities listed above that you need to work on and make an effort to exhibit to your spouse.

Good Qualities to have in a Marriage by the Hub

Tommy Nelson - Specific Good Qualities to Have in a Marriage

These are some of Solomon’s features that his wife called to her mind and praised (see Song of Solomon 5:10-13):

He was pure in his motives and behaviors toward her.  Repeatedly she referred to him as white, including white as ivory and white as marble.

He was extremely handsome—more handsome even than ten-thousand other men combined.

His head (in this case his mind) was filled with wisdom more valuable than gold.

He was respected even though he was youthful.  His hair was black, with no evidence of the weakness of age.  Sin is often pictured in the Bible as the weakness of aging. (see Hosea 7:9.)

He was gentle; his eyes were soft and tender toward her. 

He was sober.  The whites of his eyes were white, not reddened by alcohol or debauched living.

He had a steadfast gaze and clear outlook toward her.  His eyes were “fitly set,” which means they were wide open and focused on her.  He saw her, and her alone, among all other women.  It is also a reference to the fact that Solomon did not have a shifty look in his eyes; his eyes did not narrow in anger or mistrust, they never openly flared in anger, and they were never bored into dullness.  They were eyes of immutable kindness and unchanging blessing toward her.

He was compassionate toward her.  When he held her in his arms, cheek to cheek, there was a sweetness in his expression of love.  When he kissed her, he did so tenderly and sweetly.  He dealt with her in a forgiving, tender, romantic, and loving way at all times.

We’ll cover some more next week.

My Question For You:

Which of the qualities described above do you display to your spouse? 

My Challenge For You:

Pick one of the qualities listed above that you need to work on and make an effort to exhibit to your spouse.

10 Tips for Enjoying your Wedding Day from Elise Enloe, Attn to Details Weddings and Events

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10 Tips for Enjoying your Wedding Day

Elise Enloe, MasterBridal Consultant™ Attention to Details Weddings & Events, Oviedo, FL

1.        Don’t expect “perfect.”  What’s perfect to you is not perfect for anyone else, and anything less is not “perfect.” Wonderful is achievable.  Don’t sweat the small stuff that onlyyou will notice.

2.        Take care of your errands, deliveries, and decorating tasks by the day before your wedding.  That means delivering centerpieces, favors, cake knife, toasting glasses, napkins, etc. to your coordinator, caterer, or reception venue so that nothing is left behind at the last minute.  Don’t complicate your day by trying to do too much. 

3.        Your clothing should be comfortable and appropriate for your environment.  Make sure your dress lets you “breathe.”  (Yes, I actually found a bride sitting nearly naked on the bathroom floor because she literally couldn’t breathe.) Grooms may appreciate ½” larger neck than they usually wear to avoid that choking feeling.  Check heating/air conditioning during your rehearsal and ask to bring in fans if air circulation or air conditioning is a problem.

4.        Choose shoes that will let you stand and walk comfortably and do make sure they are broken in.  (This should probably be #1.) If you must, take them to a shoemaker and have them stretched so that you don’t blemish your day with blisters.

5.         Avoid eating heavy meals, gassy or acidic foods, and drinking alcohol the night before to avoid discomforts.  Do make sure you eat something before your wedding, and drink plenty of water, especially in warm climates.  Saltine crackers or pretzels may help calm a nervous stomach and help you to retain water, eliminating the urge to have to go to the bathroom.

6.         Avoid heavy perfumes.  They can overcome your senses and make you feel nauseous.  They can attract insects if outdoors, and could trigger allergic reactions in guests. 

7.        Relaxing is most important.  Before walking down the aisle, you may find that a short “loosening up” or stretching is in order. Shake your arms and legs and do a few head and neck rolls. You may look funny, but it does help. Don’t lock your knees while standing! Stand with your legs slightly apart, with knees relaxed, and periodically wiggle your toes.  If you feel faint, take advantage of prayers. Bend your head and breath slowly, deeply inhaling through your nose and exhaling from your mouth to a slow, mental count.  Lean on your fiancé if you must. 

8.        Make all final payments to vendors ahead of time,  It’s really tacky to be writing checks during your reception.  If not paid the week before, give final payments to your coordinator, best man, or some other designated individual in labeled envelopes, and include cash tips where appropriate. 

9.        Expect “no shows” and “add-on” guests who didn’t RSVP.  If you have a seating plan, have a plan for extra seats.  While guests should RSVP, setting up extra tables while guests stand in waiting can be avoided with a few extra seats.  Identify where the extra seating will be so that your coordinator or banquet captain can direct extra guests without disruption. 

10.     If you’ve contracted with a team of reputable wedding professionals, they’ve done many more weddings than you have. Trust your wedding professionals, and allow them to do their jobs.  Now, if you’ve got your future brother-in-law’s cousin’s friend – well, you get what you pay for.

 

Elise Enloe, Master Bridal Consultant™

Attention to Details Weddings & Events

www.attn2details.com

Submission by the Hub

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Tommy Nelson - Submission

One of the most effective responses I’ve ever heard given to a husband who erred in his behavior was one that a wife gave after hearing a sermon about Jesus and Pilate.  Pilate said to Jesus, “Do you not know that I have power to crucify You, and power to release You?”  Jesus replied, “You could have no power at all against Me unless it had been given you from above” (John 19:10-11).  From that moment on, Pilate sought to find a way to release Jesus because he recognized that he, indeed, was under God’s authority.

This young woman said to me, “When my husband makes a decision or embarks on an activity that I know is wrong, I just say to him, ‘Do what you want.  You are under God’s authority, and I trust God to deal with you.’”.  That’s called submission with a wallop to it!  The truth remains, however.  All of us are under the authority of someone, and in the marriage chain of command, a husband is under the authority of God.  A wife is wise to trust God to manifest His authority in her husband’s life rather than to attempt to take on that role for herself.

My Question For You: How do you feel about submission? 

My Challenge For You: We all have to submit to someone, so be wise when people submit to you or you submit to someone else.

Why Revenge is a Bad Idea by the Hub

Why Revenge is a Bad Idea

I heard a priceless story about revenge one time.  A woman asked her husband one morning to zip up the back of her dress.  He began to play around with the zipper in a flirtatious way—zipping it up and down, up and down—and in the process, the zipper broke.  She had just had the dress dry-cleaned and was late for a meeting, and there she stood with a “broken” dress.  She was furious.

About 5:30 that evening, she returned home, still angry over her husband’s behavior that morning.  She found her husband working on his car, lying underneath the car from his waist up, the lower part of his body sticking out and temptingly accessible.  He didn’t seem to hear her as she approached, so she reached down and grabbed the zipper on the front of his jeans and began to zip it up and down just as he had done with her dress that morning.  Then she walked into the house.

To her astonishment, her husband was standing in the kitchen.  She said, “What are you doing in here?”  He said, “What do you mean?  It’s our kitchen.”

She said, “You were under the car just two seconds ago.”

“No,” he said, “I haven’t been under the car at all.”

“Well, who is out there in our garage working under your car?”

“It’s the next-door neighbor,” he said.  “The muffler was coming off and he volunteered to fix it, so I told him I’d really appreciate his help and I came in here to fix a glass of tea for him when he’s finished.”

His wife went pale as a white sheet.  She admitted to her husband what she had done, and they both hurried out to apologize to the man.  They found the guy lying totally still.  He didn’t respond to their calls, so they pulled him out from under the car by his legs.  When he came to, they discovered that he had done what any man would have done if someone suddenly grabbed the zipper to his pants.  He sat straight up, and bam, he hit his head on the underside of the car with such force that he knocked himself out!

All acts of revenge need to be left to God.  Strange and terrible things can happen when you take retaliation and vengeance into your hands, and none of them are good.

My Question For You: Do you ever want to exact revenge on your spouse for their actions?  Has it ever gotten you into trouble?

My Challenge For You: Don’t let revenge even cross your mind when it comes to your spouse